Part of Getting Married Means Making ‘My Own Thing’ Into ‘Our Thing’
Jan 18, 2010 Married Life, Relationship Tips
Everyone has hobbies, things they like to do or stay caught up on outside the office. Some people like to follow sports (did you see the Saints game?) or keep up with politics (how about that Massachusetts special election?) or even play video games (keep an eye out for the Assassins Creed II DLC at the end of the month!). But when you get married your priorities do change, I still keep an eye on politics and I still look forward to the latest games but now that I am married there is something that I am more into than either of those things…my wife.
As we grown in our marriage and relationship we less want to do our own thing and more want to share what we once considered ‘our own thing’ with each other.
When you get married you are committing yourself to a relationship that should last your entire life. As we were dating and then engaged we both said “oh, we spend as much time together as we can now but when we are married we will do our own thing too”, if only we had known! We thought that because we would see each other we would want to make sure we get enough time apart but if anything we try to spend more time together. Don’t get me wrong, Nicole and I try to do ‘our own thing’ we are not constantly attached at the hip but we have found that as we grown in our marriage and relationship we less want to do our own thing and more want to share what we once considered ‘our own thing’ with each other.
Before Nicole and I met we both had separate interests that the other did not. I was interested in politics and tv shows (24, Buffy, etc)…among other things, and Nicole was interested in window shopping and hiking…among other things. As we got to know each other and shared our interests we found we enjoyed what the other person had to show us. Some things one of us likes the other never will (Nicole will never be a gamer and I will never scrapbook) but we have more things we enjoy than not and we find that we would much rather do these things together than apart. Sure, when you are married you can do things apart and that is fine…but I am finding that even the things I can by myself before are so much better and so much more fun with someone I love.
Some of you that read my blog are single, some engaged, and some married. for each of you I would love to know your thoughts on this. If you are single, what things would you like to share with someone in a relationship? If you are engaged or married what things have you brought to the relationship to brighten your significant others life and horizons? What do you enjoy together?
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